A Map For Romantic Relationships Walk, run, rest. Hop, skip, jump. Birth, life, death. Everything has a rhythm—an order. This is true for romantic relationships but most people don’t know or pay attention to the order. It goes like this: Dating, Relating, Mating. And when I use the term “mating,” what I mean is entering […]
Relationships, unlike fine wines and cheeses, do not always age well and improve with time. Some become stale and bitter under the constant assaults of time and obligations, pressures and bills and living our lives on autopilot.
In many long-term romantic relationships we may experience the creeping malaise of what was once exciting and invigorating becoming mundane. After many years you may begin to suffer from the friction that comes from poor communication or words we never say.
We are taught early on that relationships are hard work. We learn to sacrifice our “selfs” to keep the peace. We give up what’s important to us or do without because we ‘re told that’s the “real world”. We settle for less than we want and question if we really deserve more.
Left unattended, our relationships can deteriorate to the point where they become untenable or undesirable.
Is that eventuality beyond rescue? It doesn’t have to be. The key to keeping a relationship alive is keeping yourself alive by continuing to explore, learn, and grow. Also key is learning how to communicate better and create healthy boundaries.
Are you willing to invest in yourself and your relationship? Live Conscious retreats are designed specifically for you to renew and revitalize your relationship so you can do more than just survive in your marriage, but thrive in your marriage.
To determine if this is right for you, ask yourself these questions:
Do I settle for less than I want?
Would I rather be right than happy?
How do I earn my partner’s love and respect everyday?
Do I treat my partner the way I want to be treated?
How do I stop indifference from creeping in?
Can I have a second time around with the one I’m with?
If you are looking to revitalize, re-energize and rescue your relationship, what you will learn at a Live Conscious retreat will give you the tools you need to bring it back to life. Rebooting a relationship can bring all that you want to what you’ve already got. It’s not too late to have the life and relationship you’ve always wanted.
There are many ingredients that go into creating healthy relationships: Respect Adoration Reciprocity Shared values Great chemistry Compatible styles But maybe nothing is more important than having healthy emotional boundaries. If so, then the questions we ask are, “what are healthy emotional boundaries?” and “how do we create them?” Emotional Boundaries Emotional boundaries are rules […]
What do you need to let go of? I work with a lot of couples in my therapy practice. They come to therapy because they are discontented—and brave. That’s why I enjoy this work. These couples that come to me are motivated to make changes in the ways they relate to one-another. And they are […]
Learning To Love Better. How can we learn to love better? How do we make our intimate relationships feel like havens, be deeper and more meaningful? To a great degree, we can do this by learning to speak to each other in a different way. If we can truly begin to communicate with our loved […]
It can be easy I want to share with you part of a recent therapy session I conducted. The work I did is counter-intuitive in many ways. It connects to a previous article I wrote, Love or Fear. So much of therapy is based on minimizing people’s fears, and although at times this is necessary […]
What lives between the onset of emotional pain and the resolution of that pain is suffering. I am learning to radically reduce the time between the onset of emotional pain and the resolution of that pain—thereby reducing or eliminating suffering. I don’t know if it’s possible to live without pain—I don’t think so—but I’ve come […]
A patient recently came in complaining that she cannot find a healthy romantic partner. She said she keeps choosing men who just don’t know how to be happy. Regardless of how well their life is going, they complain about something. And nothing she ever does seems good enough to make up for their unhappiness. I […]
Do you get what you want in your life? I’m not talking about material things; I’m talking about your primary relationships. Does your partner give you what you want? Are you treated the ways you want to be treated? Do you receive from your partner the things you most want from him or her? What […]
Do you think creating healthy relationships —romantic ones—is hard? Many people do. And you know what . . . all those people who think so have a hard time creating healthy relationships. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. And if you expect it to be hard, when it is, you think that means you need to work […]
Are you or your partner argumentative? Have you had this kind of disagreement with your partner? One of you says to the other, “I don’t like it when you X.” Or, “I don’t want you to X.” “I don’t want you to flirt with other people.” “I don’t like it when you say you’ll call […]