What is ReSpeak?
- ReSpeak is a very specific practice—not something you do just once a day—you practice every time you speak, whether you’re speaking with other people or in the privacy of your own mind. ReSpeak is a present tense language, which helps you stay in the moment, because this moment—right now—is the moment you can most easily influence.
- ReSpeak eliminates all praise and blame so that we become less judgmental and less fearful of the judgments of other people. It makes clear—to ourselves and those we speak with—that most of the time we are describing our internal experiences or our personal interpretations of what’s going on around us. We are not describing the world “out there,” but rather the world “in each of us.” ReSpeak is the only language that captures the subjectivity of our experience, thus eliminating defensiveness and the tendency to tell people about themselves.
- ReSpeak allows you to listen to other people without getting defensive, realizing they are only talking about themselves, and stop making compassion-less judgments of others. It allows you to more easily reveal yourself so that you can better connect with others.
As a result of learning ReSpeak, we sensitize ourselves to RE words, and every time we use one we recognize—we re-mind ourselves—that we are creating meaning and we have choices in how we do so. These two letters capture our ability to recognize when we are even slightly out of kilter—thinking or behaving in ways that don’t feel right to us—so that we can re-right ourselves and then return to the present moment.