"Don't be afraid to go out on a limb. That's where the fruit is."— H. Jackson Browne

What’s the Meaning of Your Life?

It depends entirely on how you make meaning. What’s that mean? Meaning is made based on the questions you ask, the shoes you stand in—yours or someone else’s—whether you hold a short or long-term perspective, whether you focus on the past, present or future, and how you make sense of things.

The way you make meaning has created exactly the life you have today. If you love your life and feel satisfied, the way you make meaning is serving you well. If you aren’t satisfied, there is a powerful solution.

"Between the stimulus and the response there's a space, and in that space is our power and our freedom."— Victor Frankl

Change the Way You Make Meaning

We don’t tell people what things mean. We offer people a new way to make meaning. This is extremely rare. Most of us were never shown how to make meaning, we were just told what things mean—by our parents, family, teachers, and our culture.

Once we begin making meaning of things in a certain way, we typically go through the rest of our lives seeking experiences that reaffirm what we think we know to be “true”—so the beliefs we hold become stronger and more rigid. And, again, if what you’re doing is working for you, there’s no need to change.

But if you’re not happy with your life and your relationships, the most valuable thing we can share with you is this idea that meaning is made up and can be changed.


Once upon a time there lived a poor farmer who lived alone with his one son. They were poor and lived a hard life. One day their only horse ran away. Their fellow villagers lamented saying, “What will you do now? That was your only horse. How will you farm your land? You are so unlucky.”

To this the poor farmer said, “We’ll see.”

A few days later the farmer’s horse came back bringing with it a wild horse. And the villagers said, “Now you have two horses to work your land. You’re so lucky!”

And the farmer said, “We’ll see.”

The next day the farmer’s son was taming the wild horse when he was thrown from her back and broke his leg. And the villagers said, “Now who will help you work your land? That is your only son. How unlucky.”

And the farmer said, “We’ll see.”

A few days later the army came through town. They were there to draft all the able-bodied young men to fight in a distant war for their emperor. All the young men of the village, except for the poor farmer’s injured boy, were taken away. The villagers watched as their children were taken away. They looked at the poor farmer and his boy and said, “You’re so lucky.”

And the farmer said, “We’ll see.”

Get Ready To Shift Your Reality

Meaning is more than a simple definition, but that’s a good place to start. We encourage you to develop your own definitions of love, maturity, spirituality, boundaries, respect, empathy, enabling, conflict, compassion, and other ideas that shape your life.

If we ask you to define the sky, you may say, “it’s the blue dome above my head.” Someone else will have a different answer. But, then, if we ask you what the sky means to you, that will generate a much fuller response. We encourage you to explore what things mean to you so that you develop deeper self-understanding (we call it “owning yourself”), but most importantly, we teach you a new way to make meaning.

A Practical, Grounded, Proven Approach

This is the most effective way we’ve ever seen to bring about personal growth and transformation. This is an alternative to spending countless hours and years in therapy, where for the most part, people shuffle around the pieces of their lives, making small adjustments and incremental steps, but they don’t fundamentally change the way they make meaning so they don’t fundamentally change their lives.

If you want to learn a new way to make meaning, the best way to do so is to attend one of our residential retreats. You’ll leave with an actual practice and the support of our small community. In time, with practice, you’ll learn to live deliberately—no longer a victim of circumstances—but the master of your fate, the captain of your soul.

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